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Diabetes: Plain Talk About The Basics
With diabetes, an attitude of 'ignore it and hope it goes away'
can kill you. Literally.
Diabetes is basically a disease that interferes with the ability
of our bodies to use food for energy and growth. One thing that
happens when we digest...
Mannerly Behavior 101
I was standing in line in the drugstore this evening and up walked a father with his 10 year old son. And what did the 10 year old boy have on? A t-shirt that said “I wish my babysitter were a HOOTER girl.” I was quietly appalled. I hear the most...
Self-Recovery from Addiction ... Taking responsibility for your life.
I've had several coaching clients come to me who, while they wanted to move forward in life, were actually stuck in a self-destructive addiction. Of course, I cannot directly confront them about their addictions, as they had to open up to me...
Weight Loss: Discover a Holistic Weight-loss Program that works
How many weight-loss programs have you tried over the years? How many of these weight-loss programs have taken a holistic approach? Holistic Weight loss is the only way we can insure that we will lose weight and keep it off. A holistic...
Why People Don't Lose Weight
Most People will tell you that they would like to lose a few
pounds. Somehow they would also like to eat healthier. What
stops people from doing this great desire that they have on the
inside of them? We all know that if we cut back on our intake...
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Learning to Say No--The Secret to Weight Loss
From the time you were a child, you might have been a people
pleaser. You tried to ace your schoolwork in order to win your
parents' approval...you practiced soccer for hours on end to win
a vote of support from your coach...or you diligently practiced
your piano chords in order to earn the gratitude of your music
teacher. There's nothing wrong with aiming to please. It can
make you a respected leader, a valued friend, a comforting
mentor. However, it should be recognized that some food
addictions begin with an inability to say "no."
It might have begun with a Thanksgiving during your childhood
when your mother asked if you wanted a second helping of mashed
potatoes. Or a teacher at your elementary school might have
given you a gold star if you cleaned your plate. You were
probably taught that it is wrong to waste food and that a hearty
appetite was a good thing. The problem is, such cues from your
environment might have caused you to learn the wrong lessons
when it came to food consumption.
In our society, many people have difficulty saying "no." They
want to be part of the crowd and they don't want to stand out
for non-participation. They will do all they can to blend in and
that leads them to say "yes" more times than they'd like to. In
fact, the epidemic of alcohol and drug abuse may be due in part
to the refusal of many people to say "no."
Admitting that you have a problem overcommitting yourself is
the first step to progress. It shows that you have a great deal
of insight into your own problems with food and you want to
change your bad habits and replace them with admirable ones. But
this can be difficult, given the fact that so many families have
a number of rituals involving food. Also, unlike cigarettes or
marijuana, food is not considered inherently bad--nor should it
be. However, you need to learn how to use food effectively.
Part of your training begins with learning the power of "no" or
"no thank you." You need to learn to assert yourself, to
recognize that you do not have to go along in order to get
along. You
realize that you are doing yourself no favors by
accepting extra helpings of pasta--in fact, you could be doing
your body a great deal of harm. The key now is to do something
about it.
What's the best way to undergo assertiveness training? One
method you can use is role-playing. Practice saying "no" to
extra servings with the help of a friend playing the role of
adversary. In this "pretend" situation, you may feel more
comfortable saying "no." You will also learn that saying "no"
isn't the end of the world; that you will not automatically lose
friends by taking a "negative" stance.
Another trick you might use is making sure that you do not
slouch while sitting at the table for your meals. Slouching
indicates defeat--a belief that a situation is hopeless. With
your head held high you will gain the confidence you need to say
"no"--and to mean it.
Yet another effective strategy is to keep a journal recording
your thoughts after you've said "no"--either to more food or to
a commitment you just can't handle at this time. Putting your
feelings in writing can be quite cathartic. It can also help you
with problem-solving, enabling you to figure out ways that you
can say "no" without hurting another person's feelings.
Something else you will need to learn is that it is not
necessary for you to fulfill another person's expectations. In
other words, whether your Aunt Mary thinks you're eating enough
really doesn't matter. If you recognize that you are overweight,
Aunt Mary's opinion shouldn't be taken into account. You must do
what you think is best in order to take control of your eating.
Assertiveness will not happen immediately. But, with practice,
you can learn to say "no" like a pro. And you--and your
waistline--will be better off as a result of what you've
learned.
About the author:
As a Teacher of Sport and Physical Education, Tony Robinson has
a keen interest in Health and Weight Loss issues. For handy
hints and tips for weight loss visit
http://www.weight-loss-arena.com
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